Marriage: five, ten, fifteen, twenty+ years out ... {and a book rec}

Life is shaping up to look like waves of trials interrupted by surprising respite. I’m unsure if I’ll give that same description ten years from now, but today I see that the ease I once imagined that would mark my days is … not so. Sure, I get interrupted by surprise islands of reprieve, but it isn’t my norm.

Something I didn’t expect 20 years ago was th…